Having spent a couple decades in the home improvement profession, I know something about houses. I know they’re vital for their shelter and protection, but for most people, they serve a much deeper purpose. Our house marks our physical place in the world and its location often determines the community in which we’ll become a part. Like contemporary pioneers we travel a certain distance until we find a spot that feels right. We stick a figurative shovel in the dirt and decide that this is where we want to be. This is the point from which we’ll face the world, this is where our friends and family will visit us, and this is where we’ll wake each morning. You see, we can choose the location of our house, but we can also choose the location of our home.
Having spent one decade in the profession of law, I also know something about “homes”. I know people spend years in spaces that have ceased to be home for them. Being forced to remain in our houses due to the pandemic has caused many to grow tired of their physical spaces and others to remember just how important they are. I’m certain it’s had the same effect on our relationships and marriages. I suppose every crisis brings out the best and worst in us and it can be difficult to deal with both happening within the same four walls. With vaccines rolling out and the new year rolling in, it seems like a time ripe for evaluating our houses, but more importantly, our homes. Is it still where you want to wake every morning? Does it offer you shelter or is it the location of the storm? Is it just that the kitchen faucet is broken, or has the entire roof fallen in?
It’s all metaphorical of course, but sometimes that helps illustrate complicated concepts. Every relationship has challenges and requires maintenance, but sometimes it’s clear that we need to vacate and move to higher ground for our own safety and that of the ones we love. If the four walls around you no longer feel like home because your relationship has broken down, you can talk to me about it! Call or text (636) 448-4677 or email me at ron.a.swick@gmail.com. I can answer all the questions that you’re likely worried about. What will happen with our kids? What about our debts, our investments…our house? It’s free, 100% confidential, and I will never pressure anyone to take any specific action. You’re one phone call away from understanding your options rather than fearing the worst.
After that conversation you may choose to stay or move on, but either way, it’s your decision where you want to be in 2021.